Robert W. Resnick, Ph.D.

International Trainer, Gestalt Associates Training Los Angeles

Couples Therapy Training Workshop:

Two Become One & Then There are None!

Couples: From a Fusion model to a Connection model – from Stencils & Templates to Movement and Process

Marriage and relationships (straight or gay) are, to a large extent, based on the assumption that two individuals fuse into one. With divorce rates of over 50-60% (1st marriages) and over 70-80% (2nd marriages), something is clearly wrong. This is even more alarming when you add to this the substantial secretly "miserably married"– those remaining married (or together if not legally married) based on fears of being alone, damaging the children, financial insecurity, religious doctrine, social stigma, cultural norms, etc. – and we begin to see the enormity of the problem. Simply put, given what actually happens in marriages and other primary relationships, we either have to assume that almost all of us are severely and irreparably damaged, (pathologizing all of us), or, there is something fundamentally flawed with our model of relationships and marriage. Trying harder at that which doesn't work is clearly not the answer. This cultural stencil of 2 become 1 soon ends up 2 become 1 and then there are none.

Rather than continuing to pathologize all of us (and try to “fix” the relationship as most models of couples therapy do), Bob Resnick will present a model of relationships, coupling and marriage based on changing from a “content /fusion” model to a “process/connection” model. In order to connect, you must have two. The implications of this paradigmatic shift are enormous and hopeful for long term, primary relationships and marriage.

Dealing with differences is the second fundamental dynamic that is at the root of almost all couples issues. Most people are acculturated to view difference as dangerous (as threats to their autonomy, their connection, criticisms, attacks, betrayals, etc.) and therefore try to eradicate difference by either becoming like the other (fusion/confluence) or trying to make the other like them (conflict). Difference only becomes conflict when you attempt to get rid of the difference! In actuality, all contact (and connection) can only happen through difference. Difference is connective tissue. The Resnick model is respectful and appreciative of difference, and has evolved new ways to collaborate, engage, compromise, trade and even celebrates differences.

Pris: 3.900 kr.